You can’t “just stop saying sorry”. You do something, something so little, like accidentally bump into someone. You feel horrible about it. Your brain starts panicking and you have trouble trying to breathe. You stutter an apology. They say it’s okay, but you accidentally do it again, and you apologize again. They just say “Aha, you can stop saying sorry.” And you feel horrible that you’ve probably made them angry or upset, so you mutter out an apology for the third stupid time, and they just say to stop saying sorry. Stop saying sorry.
You can’t just tell someone to stop saying you’re sorry.
I want that comment on flyers so I can hang them in my school
reblogging this one for the GOOD commentary.
If you’re going to tell someone to stop saying sorry say, “You don’t have to apologize to me.” and smile. If they say sorry again just say, “You’re fine.” and keep smiling and move on. The faster the situation is resolved the faster the person with anxiety can start to calm down. Please don’t get angry at someone for saying sorry, sometimes that’s all the person feels like they can do.
I’ve always been really bad about this and as a kid I’d always do it around my parents and my mom would always say “STOP SAYING YOURE SORRY.” thank you to the helpful comment.
What I wish some people would comprehend better is that, we just want to apologize because we think it’s a natural thing to do, but then you hear “Stop saying you’re sorry!” and you can feel anger in the voice. You feel bad because you realize you disappointed someone again for not being able to function properly, for having low self-esteem and confidence from your past experiences in life. You failed again, you made someone annoyed at you again when you meant no harm. You feel like shit again. It’s a vicious cycle. When you’re depressed and when you have anxiety, you’re in these vicious cycles, and it’s so hard to get out of them. Because people want to avoid you, because people gets easily annoyed by the way you are even though you try your hardest to be okay, to act like you’re okay so other people won’t feel bad being around you… But they’re mad, or upset and you end up feeling even guiltier than you already were. It’s a never ending cycle. And let me tell you, it takes a lot of mental strength and time to get out of this loop.